Mummy's boy / gal

Brought Bernice to popo's house today, on the way back to school on the lrt. Saw a lower secondary boy, and he was holding someone's hand. Guess who?? his girl fren... NO. If its the girl fren, I probably wun kick up such a big fuss. He was holding his mummy's hands, ok, or rather, his mummy was holding his hands. When i saw this, only one word, shocked. Ok, probably he's the only child, and blah blah blah....

While walking to school, this time, i saw an upper secondary school girl whose mummy accompany her all the way from petir lrt to the junction outside school. After which, the girl crossed the road to walk to school, while the mummy walked on the opposite side of the road. Everyday.

I was never treated this way by my mum. Either she too bo chup or she don't love us... haha. Before i was a mum, i cant complain, coz i may be that kind of super affectionate mum.. But now that i am one, i know that i will never be like that. Not that we don't love her, but as a kid to my mum, i was very independent. Going downstairs myself to buy things at 5, taking a bus to a secondary school i have never been to at 12 to ask for a place there. My mum helped me ask how to go to the school, and i had to change a feeder bus, and count, first, second and i alight at the third bus stop to my to-be secondary school near Tiong Bahru. Maybe because of the way i was brought up, i can never understand the stickiness between parents and kids.

Ok, call me sour grapes...

As Bernice is growing, both daddy and i need to reach a compromise on how to bring up Bernice. Fortunately, had a bit of training while looking after his nephew a year back. And so far, one thing we can agree on is, when he disciplines, i will shut up and let him do it. And, we will do the same for Bernice.

Another thing we agree on is to bring Bernice up as an independent girl. But frankly, don't know how it will turn out. Do it well, we will have an independent, dependable girl. Do it not well, we are going to have a self centred, hao lian gal. We will see how it goes.

So afraid...

of missing out her devlopment milestones, she just grows up so quickly, seems only yesterday when she was a little little baby, refusing to finish drinking her milk, cry when time was not up for her milk and so on. And now she is 6 months, growing fine, and never failing to put a smile on to mummy and daddy's face. never failing to make her grand parents, yiyi and shushu love her.

How i wish I can be able to witness her growing up, to catch all of it and for it to always remain in my memory.

"You are a very lucky mummy"

Went to food court yesterday with Bernice and daddy for dinner. while waiting for daddy to get his food, i was carrying bernice and playing around with her. Then this lady stopped in front of us, and started looking at bernice and touched her cheeks.

she," very cute, never seen such a cute baby before. very good ah, hai, i cannot give birth lah.."
she," boy or girl? how many months already?"
she," very cute... you are a very lucky mother."

Just when she left, recalled the conversation i had with a colleague in school, she very much wanted to get married and give birth so that she can dedicate her time to the baby and not to school stuff. And one day she said that struck me, pregnancy should not be taken for granted.
Indeed, pregnancy should not be taken for granted. I am indeed very lucky to be able to get pregnant and have bernice with me. for all this, all the more i will take good care of her, and ensure she receives the best that we can give her, whether care and concern, our time, or education.

Lonely no more

Ever since I started bringing Bernice out, I have been getting lots of attention, or rather she has been getting lots of attention.

These are the most common things I hear when i carry her out, of course, when i am alone, I am transparent and no one bothers about me, haha. :-)

1) Wah, so cute, girl or boy ah?
2) See, baby, last time you also like that, so small. (mother or grandmother talking to her child or grandchild)
3) how many months already ah?
4) "U bring her home everyday ah? why dun leave at your mother place?" this is the thing i always hear when i bring her back from po's house and am in the same lift as the neighbours.