Thursday, October 4, 2007

Mummy's boy / gal

Brought Bernice to popo's house today, on the way back to school on the lrt. Saw a lower secondary boy, and he was holding someone's hand. Guess who?? his girl fren... NO. If its the girl fren, I probably wun kick up such a big fuss. He was holding his mummy's hands, ok, or rather, his mummy was holding his hands. When i saw this, only one word, shocked. Ok, probably he's the only child, and blah blah blah....

While walking to school, this time, i saw an upper secondary school girl whose mummy accompany her all the way from petir lrt to the junction outside school. After which, the girl crossed the road to walk to school, while the mummy walked on the opposite side of the road. Everyday.

I was never treated this way by my mum. Either she too bo chup or she don't love us... haha. Before i was a mum, i cant complain, coz i may be that kind of super affectionate mum.. But now that i am one, i know that i will never be like that. Not that we don't love her, but as a kid to my mum, i was very independent. Going downstairs myself to buy things at 5, taking a bus to a secondary school i have never been to at 12 to ask for a place there. My mum helped me ask how to go to the school, and i had to change a feeder bus, and count, first, second and i alight at the third bus stop to my to-be secondary school near Tiong Bahru. Maybe because of the way i was brought up, i can never understand the stickiness between parents and kids.

Ok, call me sour grapes...

As Bernice is growing, both daddy and i need to reach a compromise on how to bring up Bernice. Fortunately, had a bit of training while looking after his nephew a year back. And so far, one thing we can agree on is, when he disciplines, i will shut up and let him do it. And, we will do the same for Bernice.

Another thing we agree on is to bring Bernice up as an independent girl. But frankly, don't know how it will turn out. Do it well, we will have an independent, dependable girl. Do it not well, we are going to have a self centred, hao lian gal. We will see how it goes.

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